The Sponsor Role

The Sponsor Role

 

1. The role of Sponsor is to pass on ‘suggestions’ and their own ‘experience’ of working the 12 Steps in accordance with the CoDA Big Book and/or CoDA Step Workbook.

2. Availability: by becoming a Sponsor we are committing to being available to the Sponsee on the phone and in person to give guidance on the Steps.

3. Commitment:  In principle the sponsor commits to being available to work through all the 12 CoDA steps.

4. Setting/Respecting Boundaries:  It is suggested to agree with the Sponsee when is a suitable time to call to check in and an amount of time per week to meet to work the Steps e.g. once a week for an hour.

5. Control:  It is helpful to be aware of not becoming controlling or dominant with a Sponsee.

6. Advice:  As Sponsors we are reminded not to give advice, instead we may make ‘suggestions’ and share our own ‘experience’.

7. Honesty:  As a Sponsor we offer our honesty and objectivity in a safe and respectful manner.

8. Enmeshment:  It is helpful to remember the sharing guidelines, using ‘I’ statements and sharing about our own experiences as much as possible.

9. Guidance:  It is suggested that Sponsors have their own Sponsor with whom they can discuss any sponsorship issues that arise.

10. It is suggested that women seek out Female sponsors and men seek out Male sponsors, to avoid potential romantic enmeshment.

11. The role of Sponsor/ Sponsee is one that is a partnership that needs to meet the needs of both the Sponsor and Sponsee.

12. It is up to each individual to decide how many sponsees they can take through the steps at any given time. We are reminded to pay attention to giving each sponsee the time required to work the steps fully and to consider if we are taking on too much responsibility.  We are reminded never to recruit sponsees.

 

The Sponsee Role

 

1. Willingness: before working the Steps it is important to ask ourselves if we are willing to go to any lengths to recover from Co-Dependency and if we are ready to change?

2. Responsibility: it is suggested that the Sponsee takes the initiative and responsibility for their own progress through the Steps.

3. Dependency:  It is important to be aware of becoming too dependent or enmeshed with a Sponsor or making them into our Higher Power. The Sponsor is not a counsellor and is only there to give guidance and pass on their experience and suggestions on how to work the Steps.

4. Commitment:  By becoming a Sponsee we are committing to calling our Sponsor and meeting in person to receive guidance on working through all the 12 CoDA Steps.

5. Setting/Respecting Boundaries:  It is suggested to agree when is a suitable time to call to check in and an amount of time per week that works for both, to meet to work the Steps, e.g. once a week for an hour .

6 .Trust:  It is suggested that the Sponsee is willing to follow and be open to the suggestions of the Sponsor on how to work the Steps.

7. The role of Sponsor / Sponsee is one that is a partnership that needs to meet the needs of both the Sponsor and Sponsee.

8. It is suggested to have just 1 sponsor at any given time.